For girls, grimm reality ( 2003-12-10 09:53) (Agencies)
As you tuck your daughter into bed tonight, you may want to think twice about
what bedtime story to read to her.
Classic fairy tales, such as Cinderella, Snow White and
Hansel and Gretel, are loaded with subtle — and many not so subtle — messages
that beauty is inherently good and should be rewarded, while people who are ugly
are evil, wicked and mean.
These messages may have more of an effect on girls and their self-esteem than
parents realize, new research contends.
"Parents need to be aware that all literature is teaching children something,
and we should be aware what those messages are," says study co-author Liz
Grauerholz, an associate professor of sociology at Purdue University. "You need
to raise questions and have a dialogue with your children about the meaning of
these fairy tales."
Grauerholz says that's exactly what she did with her own daughters. "I didn't
want my daughters to think they were only valuable for their looks," she says.
Sleeping Beauty a Nightmare for
Girls?
For the study, Grauerholz and her colleague, Lori Baker-Sperry from Western
Illinois University, analyzed 168 fairy tales written in the 1800s by Jacob and
Wilhelm Grimm — popularly known as the Brothers Grimm. Nearly half of these
tales have been reproduced in children's books and movies.
Five of the most popular tales are: Cinderella, Snow White, Briar Rose
(Sleeping Beauty), Little Red Cap (Little Red Riding Hood) and Hansel and
Gretel.
Grauerholz says she wanted to document how girls and women are portrayed in
these fairy tales. Results of the study appear in a recent issue of the journal
Gender and Society.
The researchers found 94 percent of the stories talked about physical
appearance, and there were an average of almost 14 references to appearance per
story. There were many more references to women's beauty than to men — one story
referred to male physical appearance 35 times versus 114 times for women's
beauty.
And, those who weren't beautiful didn't fare well in the Grimm Brothers'
tales. Nearly 20 percent of the stories linked being ugly with being evil. Also,
in many stories, ugly people were punished, the study finds.
Tackle Stereotypes Head On, Say
Experts
Does this mean you should pull beloved fairy tales off your youngster's
bookshelf? No, says Grauerholz, you just need to offer your children another
point of view and help them think about the messages in these tales.
With young children, she recommends changing the stories. Tell Cinderella to
your child as if she were male. Or change the ending so she decides the prince
wasn't right for her after all and lived happily ever after by making her own
life.
Grauerholz points out that the messages in these tales are very similar to
messages your children receive from today's popular media.
"We are so bombarded with this message [that beauty is good], it becomes
invisible," says Grauerholz. But, she says children are picking up on it.
"This is quite a comprehensive problem," notes child psychologist Robin
Goodman, from the New York University Child Study Center. "Media advertising,
pop stars, TV, peer interaction — there are so many things other than fairy
tales working against women, and boys are also getting messages on how to treat
girls."
She says she doesn't believe that fairy tales are the root of the problem,
but that they do reinforce certain stereotypes. And, like Grauerholz, she
doesn't think banning the books is the solution.
"These stereotypes exist, so you better help your children deal with them,"
says Goodman. "Tackle stereotypes head on, as early and as often as you can.
They're not going away, so equip your children with ways to deal with them."
Goodman also points out that not all of the messages in fairy tales are
negative. In Beauty and the Beast, the heroine learns to love the Beast for who
he is, not what he looks like.
Classic fairy tales, such as Cinderella, Snow White and
Hansel and Gretel, are loaded with subtle — and many not so subtle — messages
that beauty is inherently good and should be rewarded, while people who are ugly
are evil, wicked and mean.
