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Make dining out with a big group more enjoyable

Updated: 2006-06-09 10:41

Are you always part of that restaurant group that leaves both you and your server frazzled? Did you even have a good time? Here are some ways to navigate any group dining situation.

Call ahead

Even if you're only giving 30 minutes' notice, a call can help you get seated faster.

"It seems as though every group of friends has the 'cruise director' that makes plans for everyone in their respective group, similar to an events coordinator for a corporation. The 'cruise directors' should call in advance to check availability and wait times if you don't already have a reservation," says Norma Dickey, director of special-event planning and marketing for Consilient Restaurants.

Where to sit

Check with the restaurant regarding minimum party-size requirements for private rooms. Some restaurants have food and beverage minimums tied to private room rentals, as well.

Whether you're a "large" party varies by restaurant. The standard is more than six or eight.

How to behave

You may be having a party, but you're in a public place. Respecting fellow diners (as well as the serving staff) makes the evening more pleasant for everyone.

Dinner conversation should be limited to the person on each side of you as well as across from you.

Paying the bill

Check with your server about the payment policy before you order. Almost every server prefers being paid with cash by large parties, and some restaurants limit credit cards to three per table.

Troubleshooting

Big groups can sometimes mean big drama. Here are some tips on how to avoid embarrassing yourself and others at the table.

One rude person is ruining the whole night. "Find a way to talk to the person without making the situation worse," says etiquette coach Harriett Cole. "Go to the restroom, and on your way back, stop, kneel down and speak to them quietly."

If you're unsure about something, ask. If you think it's too late to arrive at the restaurant, just call and see what they say.

Learn your role. "As a guest, be a team player and a responsible participant," says Cole. "Learn the guidelines for the evening, such as when to arrive, how to pay, etc. Have a good attitude and be engaging."